Sometimes it’s hard to love ourselves. We want to look a different way, have better grades, care more about life, stop being so lazy. We can get stuck in seeing all the things we don’t like in ourselves and miss how amazing we actually are. That might sound very full of ourselves, but it’s not.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. Psalm 139:14
God made each and every one of us just the way we are supposed to be. All the little “imperfections” we have aren’t imperfections at all. They are what makes us unique, they are what makes you, you. and YOU are fearfully and wonderfully made. Personally I have struggled with this truth. It used to be, and can still be, hard for me to look in the mirror and only see good things. It can be easy to see things on the outside and the inside of myself as wrong and want to fix them. Thankfully God has been working on me here and I’m learning to love myself for who he made me to be. This goes for you too, there may be a lot of healing that needs to be done in this area. There may be a lot of hurt, self hate, and anger of certain things about yourself. But I promise you that those words you tell yourself, “I wish I was smaller”, “Why can I never get my acne to go away”, “Why can I never be nicer to people”…the list goes on…they aren’t helping any. Some of the things about how we act are really good to reflect on and work on, but when it turns to shame and guilt and hating yourself for certain things, it becomes destructive. And anything you say about the way you look that is negative, I can tell you nothing good will come from that.
I’m reading a book right now called “Becoming Myself” by Stacy Eldredge. She also struggled with this and started healing by aligning her thoughts with how God sees us. She started by thanking God for her body. “I haven’t been so kind to you, legs, but we’ve been through a lot together and you’ve brought me far. Thank you, legs. You’re awesome.” When I first read that I laughed. It seemed so silly to talk to your body. But then I realized how perfect it is. With how little love my body got from me over the years, I actually owed myself an apology. How could I have every though that destructive talk would every help me “improve” myself? No, what my body needs is love and it needs to be looked at and embraced the way our Father does. Like I said before, this isn’t all about the way we look, but it also goes with how we are as a person. I’ll be the first one to admit that I haven’t always liked myself in that area either. But again, thankfully I have been brought healing and am learning to love ALL of me. God renews your heart, He changes you from the inside out, and He uses the parts of you that you never thought could be anything good, to glorify Himself.
Believe that you are beautiful from the inside out. You are everything you are supposed to be, you are not too much, you are not lacking in anything. Look in the mirror and love yourself the way you were made to be loved and embraced. Let the healing begin.