As a human, especially female (I can really only say from experience), there is no denying that in our heart we desire to be noticed. And I don’t mean just our looks, but more than that. We want to be needed, wanted, and captivating. Some of us are ashamed to admit that, but there is NOTHING wrong with it! Our design is made to be that way. God made us to want that for many reasons, and I believe the biggest one is because it will draw us closer to him. When you look to other things to fill that empty void in you, you will find that it never gets fully filled. It may get halfway there, or even close to the top, but there is always a part of you yearning for more. You could try getting it from a boyfriend/girlfriend, going to the gym to “look better”, getting straight A’s, approval from friends…or anything else that can become an idol in your life (believe me I think I’ve tried most of them). But none of that stuff can fully be what you need because the only one who can fill us is the one who created us. My favorite verses:
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame is not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them. -Psalm 139:13-16
Every time I read that my heart beats a little faster. God knew ME before I was even born. He knew YOU before all this was here. How crazy is it to think that? He put so much thought into your individual design, he cares for you more than anyone on this earth ever could, so why would he not be able to be everythingyou need and more. It only makes sense that he can be the only one to fulfill all of your desires, needs, wants. That may not mean getting a new car or your dream job, but it does mean feeling loved, special, beautiful inside and out, and so much more than you can imagine. As you draw closer to Him and get to know Him personally, He truly becomes all you could ever ask for.
So in those times that you are lonely and want to go to whatever/whoever you go to for comfort, or compare yourself to others wishing you were them and trying to change the way you are, or find yourself doing whatever you need to feel desired, just know that there is another option. There is someone who accepts you for all that you are, loves you more than your brain can even fathom, and will give you all the attention and fulfillment you need if you let him.
The king is enthralled by your beauty. – Psalm 45:11